[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it.A lot of you are self-conscious about the fact that you’re on a dating site.
Would true love be the subject of so many songs and stories if it was that easy to find? Your romantic journey begins with the words “I’d practically given up hope, and I was about to ring up the convent and ask for directions when suddenly, without warning, we found each other!
” I’ve lost count of the friends who came to the conclusion that internet dating just wasn’t for them, until they went on ‘one last date’ and met the loves of their lives.
You will be dazzled to discover the number of people that don’t know how to eat with their mouth closed.
Prepare to be amazed by the sheer volume of singletons who harbour extreme political views and have no indoor voice!
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?
’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.
Dating sites are where they congregate, like ants under a log. You learn a lot about yourself every time – even if it’s that you’re capable of making up a brilliant excuse on the spot, or that you’re capable of holding back tears until you’ve got the bus home.
I’m sure some people do meet the love of their life within a week of signing up, but where’s the story in that?
I’ve got a bit of a scam going.” Or the gentleman who kissed me tenderly and passionately, whispering “I’d invite you back to my place…but I think you need to lose at least a stone first.” There is no way of avoiding nightmare dates.