So while you may know a handful of men who don’t care about looks, they are rarities.
They are the gold standard, the type that every woman should be striving to date.
For example I, a reasonably intelligent and thoughtful woman, for a time dated men purely on the merits of their looks (and their ability to make me laugh).
There is a difference, I think, in what is conventionally beautiful and what each of us finds attractive.
A., where I live…If anybody should be judged harshly, it’s men for refusing to let women age gracefully.
Most men do not break out of gender roles and societal expectations.
After all, women buy into the Beauty Myth just as much as men do. The real struggle is in keeping a healthy perspective and a positive attitude until you find the right fit.
Advertising and media saturation reinforce the image of perfect bodies and skin, and women spend thousands of dollars each year striving for an impossible standard. So don’t worry about what you can’t control (men); instead, take care of what you can control (yourself).
So, Tia-Maria, why do dating experts tell men how to get the hottest women possible? What these men rarely consider is that the hot girl might also be emotionally bankrupt, unintelligent, flaky, humorless, and lack basic human empathy. Men’s repeated refrain: “I can’t help what I’m attracted to.” Who do we blame for this? And where does this realization leave you, Tia-Maria? And rightfully concerned that you’re going to be overlooked.
Men, of course, but there’s more than enough responsibility to go around. Despite my shallow man diatribe, please bear in mind that there is a lid for every pot. Most women don’t qualify as “hot” in the Maxim sense, and yet they still get married.
And make no mistake about it – telling women to hold out for men who don’t care about looks is BAD ADVICE. Because men like this are as common as Halley’s Comet….