But there are some very stark differences [between my book and the others].
I don't think it's wise for people to assume, from just being around people in groups, that they can really decide that they want to marry someone, without a graduated exposure to them.
Cloud recently spoke with Beliefnet about common mistakes people make when they're dating, whether God has a role in singles' dating lives, and the kind of values Jesus would want people to look for in a mate.
What do you mean when you say dating should not just be about marriage?
Members of your support system are the ones who are most objective about the people you are dating.
Network with friends and family, pursue the things you enjoy, join others who have the same need, use your gift of hospitality, and do something structured.
After all, I’m always game to glean additional information about healthy dating relationships for my future. But, to be honest, I also struggled to connect at times. I even wanted to throw the book out the window at one point, but hunkered down and kept on reading. Here’s the deal: Dating is a topic on which I have a whole lot of head knowledge, but no real practical experience.
I’m that girl who reads almost every relationship book on the Christian market. I’m that girl who loves Jesus, and fervently desires to get married, have children, and continue to serve in ministry for the rest of my days.
" usually they just laugh and say, "No, he's the last person in the world [I'd have expected]." They got outside their type. So when somebody is kind of on the hunt, they get locked into a type.
There are also lots of wonderful growth experiences people have in the course of their dating lives that really prepare them for the one.
In all areas of their lives, they'll take ownership of making those areas of their lives work for them.