In the end she rather reluctantly agreed not to go, and as far as I know this is what happened.
After my wife came back from the conference I thought the issue was settled, but she has since been in fairly frequent email contact with the man.
I thought everything was pretty much OK in my marriage until a few weeks ago when my wife went to an academic conference abroad.
I believe that my wife has no intention of being unfaithful, but my view is that this is the case with most people who end up having affairs, but that initial interest can lead to attraction, and once the chemistry between two people is there barriers can quickly get swept away.
Whereas my wife sees the issue in terms of trust, I see it in terms of probabilities - if you go out for "dates" with other people sooner or later you will find someone who will become your lover. For me "trust" means not forming special and exclusive relations with the opposite sex once you are married and/or in a committed relationship.
to come riding back up over the mesa of our years together with one badass sunset sinking down behind me.
Most people spend their lifetimes in the back lots of their imagination wishing away what they have for something bigger to come along and sweep them away.. I'm not saying they don't fall in love for real, that would be a stupid thing to say.
He then asked her out to dinner that evening, and she accepted.
When my wife told me this I told her I didn't think it was a good idea for her to go out to dinner with someone she had only just met, and that she would be sending out the wrong signals.I'd say I'm way more of a dreamer than a thinker, but even so: I never ever dreamed I could fall in love quite the way that Monica and I did.We found each other in a hail of bullets and arrows and we never once thought twice about jumping off that and with so much anger/laughter/sadness/joy/trash talk/dirty talk/Friday night couch pizza/HBO binge-watching/dog love/dog loss/money trouble/personality-crushing/soul-sucking/daily heart reincarnating/Sunday sunshine/bring me a beer-ness For me it's purely gravitational, this natural pull to be with my ex-wife.Then I'll kind of say what needs to be said, what we've been saying all along, really."Oh yeah, baby," I'll tell her.Two years ago, I discovered that my husband had a mistress, and they were working together in the same company.Even when we tried to quit it, we couldn't quit it.