Caitlin Mc Ginnis shares her experiences of dating with an ostomy.
I’ve learned to wait it out and see how things were going.
I want to tell them earlier on before things get too serious but I don’t want to mention it too early. I still haven’t perfected it and it’s going to be different for everyone.
I say this because on first dates, I talked about my ostomy. I would be out to dinner and randomly say “Have you ever heard of Ulcerative Colitis? It was new to me and that’s all I could talk about.
Nothing had really happened in my life at that time except for my ostomy surgery.
My thoughts were that if they were going to have an issue with it, I’d rather know early on before I start having feelings.
I also never heard from these men either, which may not have had anything to do with my ostomy. No one has ever flat out told me it was because of it.In a way, I was relieved that I wasn’t in a relationship at this time because it was a very low point in my life and I’m not sure a relationship would have lasted. After I had my ostomy surgery and was discharged from the hospital, I was 20 lbs. I had no self-esteem and didn’t do much of anything.When I finally started to date, it may have been too soon after my surgeries. My rationale now for it is because I was completely consumed with my ostomy at that time.I had been seeing a guy on and off for a few months.We were “on” when I was admitted to the hospital and while I was inpatient for a month.Dating is hard enough as it is without having to tell someone about your ostomy.