“It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard stubble,” says Neustifter.So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.
“On top of that, you’re arousing him even more, because he’s thinking, ‘Yes!
I’m turning her on.’ That makes him feel more confident.” We call that a win-win.
) doesn’t mean you know which words will put you both in the mood.
“Women feel silly talking dirty,” says Jaiya, a sex educator and author of .
“Generally, people respond well to hearing how aroused their genitals area,” she says.
Do: Outline His Qualities That Excite You Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating.“The words that turn him on might be tender and loving—that can be just as highly arousing,” Jaiya adds.If you’re not sure which he prefers, try alternating sweet phrases (e.g.Do: Tell Him What You’re Going to Do Ready for advanced dirty talk? “It’s easier for women to care-take than to say, ‘Here’s what I want you to do,’” says Jaiya.So ease into it by suggesting a move you’ve tried in the past that both of you enjoyed.Don't: Feel Pressure“Dirty talk” is perhaps a misnomer, because bedroom banter doesn’t have to be crude to be a turn-on.